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/** @jsxImportSource https://esm.sh/preact */
let linkClass = "text-sky-600 hover:text-sky-500";
export let date_me_faq = (
<div class="flex flex-col max-w-3xl">
<h1 class="my-3 font-bold text-2xl">FAQ</h1>
<h2 class="my-3 font-bold text-xl my-3">How do I edit my submission?</h2>
<p>
Resubmit the form if you want anything edited & shoot me a message so I know to delete the old row. Or you can
just let me know the update via contact info below.
</p>
<h2 class="my-3 font-bold text-xl">Can I suggest a location?</h2>
<p>
Contact me (info below) if you want to suggest a location or edit to one of the location fields. I’m trying to
keep it relatively standardized, so it’s easier to filter.
</p>
<h2 class="my-3 font-bold text-xl">Can I help?</h2>
<p>
Thanks for asking! Maybe you can! Do you know how to code? I'm{" "}
<a class={linkClass} href="https://www.val.town/v/stevekrouse/dateme">looking for collaborators</a>!
</p>
<h2 class="my-3 font-bold text-xl">Why is the directory >70% male?</h2>
<p>Great question! I think there are a couple reasons:</p>
<ol class="list-decimal pl-10 leading-8 mt-3">
<li>
Date Me Docs came about as a practice in tech, rationalism, and EA communities, which are disproportionally
male.
</li>
<li>Men feel safer exposing themselves romantically publicly.</li>
<li>Women can get too much attention when they publicize that they are looking to date.</li>
</ol>
<p class="my-3">
Date Me Docs, and the culture surrounding them are so new, but it seems like could be a reasonable state of
affairs for men to be the ones to create and publicly post Date Me Docs, and for women to read them and contact
the men they are interested in privately, sometimes with a simple message, and sometimes with a private version of
a Date Me Doc. There have been women who initially made their Date Me Doc public, but then changed it to private
when they got too much inbound attention.
</p>
<p>
I’d encourage women who feel safe to create and publicly share a doc to do so, and know that there is always the
option to make it private later. On the other hand, this Bumble-like pattern where women remain private and
message men could also be a healthy pattern. We shall see!
</p>
<h2 class="my-3 font-bold text-xl">Can I bring Date Me Docs to my community?</h2>
<p>
Yes!!! While Date Me Docs started in Tech/rationalism/EA, I think it would work well in a lot of nerdy or
intellectual communities. Bring your friends to the party! Share it on social media!
</p>
<h1 class="my-3 font-bold text-2xl">Press</h1>
<ul class="list-disc pl-10 leading-8 ">
<li>
<a
href="https://www.nytimes.com/2023/08/02/style/date-me-docs.html"
class={linkClass}
>
Tired of Dating Apps, Some Turn to 'Date-Me Docs' (New York Times)
</a>
</li>
<li>
<a
href="https://www.wired.com/story/date-me-google-docs-and-the-hyper-optimized-quest-for-love/"
class={linkClass}
>
‘Date Me’ Google Docs and the Hyper-Optimized Quest for Love (Wired)
</a>
</li>
<li>
<a
href="https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/may/31/a-friend-said-it-gave-them-hope-four-ways-to-find-love-without-the-apps#dating-docs"
class={linkClass}
>
Four ways to find love - without the apps (The Guardian)
</a>
</li>
</ul>
<h1 class="my-3 font-bold text-2xl">Contact</h1>
<p>
Contact me by email at:{" "}
<a class={linkClass} href="mailto:stevekrouse.dateme_contact@valtown.email">
stevekrouse.dateme_contact@valtown.email
</a>
</p>
<p class="my-3">
This site was made with ❤️ by <a class={linkClass} href="https://stevekrouse.com">Steve Krouse</a> using{" "}
<a href="https://val.town" class={linkClass}>Val Town</a>{" "}
(<a class={linkClass} href="https://www.val.town/v/stevekrouse/dateme" target="_blank">view the code</a>). Please
reach out with questions, feedback, or suggestions!
</p>
<p>
This service is provided free of charge. All I ask is to be notified if you find love. Or for your firstborn,
Rumpelstiltskin style. Whichever comes first.
</p>
</div>
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